Asking children these five questions after school every day is enough to change a child's life.

Family is the cradle for children to grow up and the first place for them to receive education after birth.

parents are also the first teachers of their children, and what parents can bring to their children often determines what their children will become.

for example, during this time after school, we spend 20 minutes a day asking our children these five questions.

can give the child a natural and solid growth, and better cultivate the personality character that will benefit the child for a lifetime.

01

"did you enjoy going to school all day?"

according to statistics, among the children and adolescents under the age of 17 in China, about 30 million are plagued by various emotional disorders and behavioral problems, and are on the rise year by year.

many people do not understand that childhood is supposed to be the happiest time for children, but why do emotional-related diseases frequently find children?

sometimes, we control our children's study and pace of life too tightly, and do not allow them to express their true feelings, which virtually forces children to close their hearts to their parents step by step.

after school, put yourself in your child's shoes and ask your child, "are you happy at school today?"

guiding children to talk about their state at school can not only aftertaste happiness, but also help children to share their worries and solve problems.

Children are not unemotional learning tools. Allowing them to cry, laugh, lose their temper and vent is the most warm education for parents to give their children.

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listen patiently to what your child says.

the child shows the inner needs hidden under the behavior, please see it in time.

although things don't overwhelm people, negative emotions can lead a mentally immature child to tragedy.

We need to let our children understand that no matter what happens and how they feel, their parents will gently accept him and guide him.

work with him to defeat negative emotions, solve problems, be at the helm of emotions, and take control of your own direction.

02

"how do you get along with your classmates?"

Children's world, school is also a small quack.

Professor Li Meijin once said:

in the TV series "the Hidden Corner", teacher Zhu Chaoyang told his mother that the child was too introverted to associate with others at school.

Mom retorts:

in her eyes, her son is a machine with high scores, and the only task is to get good grades.

A mother who ignores the true friendship of her child does not even know that her son is isolated at school.

finally, the child goes to another circle full of sin and blood. he or she is broken and the family is destroyed.

parents do not teach, children do not understand, a child who lacks social skills will be full of stress and loneliness in public.

at the same time, children are more likely to be attracted by "toxic friendships" and fall into bad groups in order to win the approval of their peers.

ask after school how children get along with their classmates, pay close attention to their friends, reduce their fear of being bullied, and protect them from going astray.

03

"have you asked any questions today?"

Wisdom comes from asking questions, and curiosity changes life.

growing children always have a lot of strange problems. They like to ask questions because they are curious about the unknown world.

there are many parents who are always perfunctory or even dismissive in the face of their children's problems, destroying their children's precious desire for exploration and missing the opportunity of enlightenment.

Chen Meiling, the mother who sent her three sons to Stanford University, has a secret in her view of parenting: ask children more questions and exercise their ability to think independently.

at the same time, children are encouraged to ask themselves more questions. Even when cooking in the kitchen, she will turn off the fire as soon as possible to find the answer to the problem with her child.

when we ask children whether they have asked a good question, it is to enable them to have a skeptical and critical attitude towards classroom knowledge and everything, and to be able to think in two ways.

because this will be transformed into curiosity, and then derived into interest, in order to enrich their own feelings of life, this ability can not be developed overnight.

if parents "inculcate" blindly, it will not only replace the child's thinking, but also bind the child's mind and soul.

as Mr. he Xiongfei, a book planner who focuses on family education, said:

"first, elites are people who can ask questions;

second, elites are people who can solve problems;

third, elites are people with ideals.

it can be seen that the most important thing for a child is to raise questions and seek answers, because thinking ability is the core of a child's development and the most powerful wing for dreams to take off.

04

"is there anything new in class today

can you teach me?"

there are many parents who always like to ask their children:

in the eyes of young children, this is more of an "interrogation." parents stand at the highest point of authority and give their children a natural strong sense of pressure. it's no fun to communicate with parents, so they naturally don't want to talk.

in order to carry out parent-child co-learning, Jews have their own set of "Jewish tutoring methods". The key to the whole method is to "let children teach parents".

Children can only listen to their teachers at school, while the Jewish tutoring method provides children with the opportunity to teach and maximize their self-confidence.

imagine a child playingLearn to go home, because did not recite the teacher's knowledge points in class, by parents censure, criticism, thus becoming more submissive, do not dare to express.

while the other child, because of the respect and encouragement from his parents, he "teaches" his parents like a teacher, so will the child be more active in learning?

not only that, he can also experience the "sense of self-competence" and the vision appreciated by his parents, and he will keep working hard for a certain skill or learning goal.

ten thousand tall buildings rise from the ground, education, like architecture, the most important thing is the foundation, and this part is also the most difficult to rework.

We should learn to encourage children gently and wisely, build the solid foundation of their hearts, and build their own life buildings.

05

"is there any difficulty we can help you with?"

the significance of this question is that we express our unconditional love for our children, care about whether they are in trouble, and protect their sense of belonging.

send a message to the child that his parents will always be his most reliable back.

the second is to guide children to solve problems and think about solutions independently, which is what we really want to teach our children.

just as John Roberts, an American father, delivered a speech at his child's graduation ceremony:

We want our children to have occasional misfortunes, setbacks, and experience the feeling of "unsuccess" in order to make them realize that success is not easy.

mistakes and difficulties are opportunities for children to grow up.

but in real life, there is a kind of helicopter parents always hover over their children, as soon as they see what problems their children encounter, they immediately remove all obstacles for their children.

on the other hand, broom parents are wiser. They only show up when their children have major problems and help them clear their minds, otherwise they try not to interfere.

discipline does not mean doing everything. Letting go does not mean laissez-faire. Parents should grasp the delicate balance between letting go and discipline in order to make their children truly "become talents and adults."

06

what is education?

some people say:

under the educational anxiety of today's environment, parents only ask their children to learn and make progress.

all other activities are arranged by the parents, and then take the children around to win the praise and praise of others all the way.

it wasn't until we saw how our children were at a loss when facing the world alone that we realized that we should constantly reflect on ourselves and whether we have adopted a healthier and wiser way of education.

measuring a child's growth should not be just a beautiful report card or a stack of thick awards, they are just a piece of paper that will be discarded as soon as the wind is drenched in the rain.

Education is even more knowledgeable. A few greetings and exhortations after school can be transformed into invisible spiritual wealth in a child's life, supporting him all the way through difficulties and all the way forward.

We also firmly believe that only by improving the child's personality, cultivating the child's ability to get along with society,

arousing the child's unlimited curiosity and internal drive, and casting a tough and brave heart, can the child be more magnanimous, broad, and long-term on the road of growth.