Beautiful morning light, accompany you to read.
there is a sentence recorded in Zengguang Xianwen that modern old people often talk about it, that is, "children and grandchildren have their own children and grandchildren." It means that children and grandchildren have their own blessings, and parents do not have to worry about them.
mention this sentence, many people only know the first sentence, but do not know the next sentence, in fact, compared with the previous sentence, the next sentence is a classic, but few people know it.
about this story, there is a story like this: legend has it that during the reign of Xuande in the Ming Dynasty, there was a scholar surnamed Luo, who was frustrated by his poor family, so he finally had to stay away from his family and become a teacher somewhere else.
Luo Xiucai has a wife and children, and his wife is a lady of a large family. when he is away, his wife can only do housework, and his wife is not good at housework, so his son and wife can only manage the housework together.
after several years away, Luo Xiu finally went home on leave for the Spring Festival. When I saw my 7-year-old son, I was so satisfied that I wanted to test his pair so that I could send him to school. Luo Xiucai pointed to the sky and gave him a "day" to tell him that his son only knew housework, so he couldn't tell at all. The mother was in a hurry and pointed to the ground. As a result, she accidentally pointed to the chicken shit on the ground, and the son understood it. There is a "day" to "chicken shit".
Luo Xiucai was furious and asked him harshly what his "father" was against. His mother was afraid that her husband would be angry, so she pointed at herself and wanted her son to "mother." as a result, when the son saw the milk, he pointed out the "milk."
after listening to this, Luo Xiucai finally gave up on his stupid son. He hated that he had not been admitted to the imperial examination, but also was discouraged by his son, and finally became a monk.
Luo Xiucai's sudden departure dealt a heavy blow to the family, but his wife slowly got over it and used her busy spare time to teach her son carefully, and later saved money to hire a famous teacher for her son.
sure enough, his son made rapid progress and later became the number one student in high school.
in order to thank his mother, his son lived for his mother when he won the top prize. Luo Xiucai, a monk, was very happy and hurried home for a visit.
but the janitor didn't know him, so he reported that a monk had come to love him, and his mother began to give him money, but he didn't want it. Later, he also asked to see the number one scholar in the new section. After seeing him, he wrote a poem on the wall:
leaving his hometown for eighteen years,
I won't accept thousands of dollars for fighting rice.
my grandchildren have their own children and grandchildren.
Mo is a horse bull for his children and grandchildren.
the next sentence of this sentence is actually a warning to parents all over the world that their children and grandchildren have their own blessings, and so is their intelligence, which can only be guided according to the situation, not forced or indulged, otherwise it will be counterproductive in the end.
giving to your children is an expression of love, but you should master the yardstick.
Lin Zexu once said a thought-provoking remark:
if you are better than me, what is the use of asking for money? if you are virtuous and have more money, you will lose his will;
Our 24 hour shipping on prom dresses will make you look elegant and sophisticated. Just check out our latest arrivals for affordable options.
if you are not like me, what is the use of keeping money? foolishly and making more money will increase his mistakes.
Children grow up and have the ability to think independently, so parents don't have to worry too much about their children.
if your children are blessed, they can start from scratch even if they are empty-handed; if they are not blessed, even if your family is rich, they will be left to splurge in the end.
at this time, parents can give them some life advice appropriately, but they can't control it too tightly and make them feel bound. After all, this will only add to their troubles and is not conducive to family harmony.
when you reach a certain age, you can spend the money you should spend, go where you want to go, put down what you should put down, forget what you should forget, carry too much, and your body can't stand it.
Don't be too hard on yourself, work hard for half your life, and do whatever you want.
hobbies must be indispensable. On the one hand, you can spend time; on the other hand, you can choose to make friends.
the most important thing is to take care of yourself, have a good health, and have a good mood. Firmly believe that if you live a good life, the whole family will be blessed!