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Let's look at a picture first.
if you are asked what you see, what is your first reaction?
A black spot?
in fact, this is a question asked by UN Secretary General Kofi Annan when he was a child.
at that time, he and all the students in the class replied, "I saw the black spot."
the teacher shook his head: "the black spot is only such a small piece, and there are so many white areas around it, why don't you see it?"
Let's take a look at another class.
A teacher wrote four questions on the blackboard:
the students read it and said one after another, "teacher, you made a mistake."
the teacher looked up leisurely and said, "Yes, you can see very clearly."
I have miscalculated this question, but the first three are all right. Why does no one see it and just stare at my miscalculated one? "
Why tell the above two short stories?
because human nature has a weakness:
is more concerned with what goes wrong than where there are bright spots.
it's like a small black dot on a piece of white paper. Bright white occupies most of the time, but most people only see that small black spot.
just as students turn a blind eye to the teacher's right questions, they pay more attention to the teacher's mistakes.
this is people's habitual thinking.
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it is precisely because of this habitual thinking that it is difficult to see the bright spots hidden beneath the surface.
in the midst of chaos, people who learn to change with the situation and find bright spots are all great people.
once, writer Lin Qingxuan passed a mutton oven shop and was suddenly stopped by the shop owner: "Mr. Lin must not remember me."
Lin Qingxuan said awkwardly, "Sorry, I really can't remember where I've seen you before."
at this time, the shopkeeper talked about their meeting 20 years ago.
at that time, Lin Qingxuan worked as a reporter in a newspaper. When he went to social news, he found a thief with a very delicate modus operandi.
after the thief was caught, the police took out a stack of photos of the theft case for him to identify. Several of them he looked at and said, "I did this, this is my style."
he glanced at the photos of some rooms that had been turned into a mess and said, "I didn't do it. My technique is not that thick."
so Lin Qingxuan went back to write a special article and could not help feeling:
that thief was the owner of this donkey meat shop.
he sincerely said to Lin Qingxuan:
the special article written by Mr. Lin broke my blind spot. I thought: why didn't I think about doing the right thing except being a thief?
after several years in prison, I came out to open a shop, and now I already have several branches, Mr. Lin. One day I'll treat you to mutton! "
afterwards, Lin Qingxuan said with great emotion that he did not expect that a report written inadvertently 20 years ago had made a young man go to the bright side.
most people scoff at thieves, but Lin Qingxuan sees the courage of thieves.
this is the bright spot thinking.
self-media author @ Singularity said: "the bright spot thinking is to find the bright spot in the chaos and embrace the light through the bright spot."
people who are really good know how to find the bright spot first when something happens.
for example, if you are a parent, you see your child's exam scores: three excellent, two good, and one passed.
how would you react?
at this time, most parents will blurt out, "Why did you do so badly in this course?" Did you wander off in class? "
but few parents praise their children for being excellent in three subjects and ask him how they did so well in these subjects.
Bacon once said, "there is a morning glow in the heart of those who appreciate it, but it is desolate in the heart of those who ignore it."
people with "bright spot thinking" can find a bright spot in anyone.
you may have heard the story of Tao Xingzhi.
once, when Tao Xingzhi saw two children fighting at school, he immediately came forward to stop it, and then told the assailant to wait for him in the office after school.
after school, Tao Xingzhi came to the office and saw the child standing there trembling.
then he took out a piece of candy from his pocket and handed it to the child and said, "this is for you, because you arrived on time and are very punctual."
before the child could put the candy in his pocket, Tao Xingzhi handed the second candy to the child and said,
"this is also a reward for you, because when I don't let you hit someone, you stop immediately, which shows that you respect your teachers."
then, Tao Xingzhi took out another candy and said:
"I just investigated him. You beat him because he bullied a female classmate, and you helped him when you saw an injustice. This is called acting bravely for righteousness, and it is also commendable."
the child was stunned after receiving the sugar. Did he play the right game today?
Tao Xingzhi continued: "Let me ask you, is there any better way than beating him at that time?"
the child said, "I didn't have to hit him at that time. I just pulled them away. It was my fault. I won't be so impulsive anymore."
Tao Xingzhi smiled with satisfaction and took out the last candy:
although the child fought, he was not without merit.
therefore, Tao Xingzhi isKnowing that the child was beating others, he was still looking for his advantages, and finally took good advice to make the child aware of the mistake.
Behavioral Design: zero cost change says: "highlight thinking can help us improve our problems."
whether in life or at work, when you get along with others, don't always focus on other people's mistakes.
know how to appreciate the advantages of others, which shows that you are a person with light in your heart.
someone in Zhihu once asked, "what causes the gap between people?"
one of the highly praised answers is: "different ways of thinking."
A person's way of thinking is related to the pattern of his behavior and the end of his life.
A paper mill in Germany had an accident in the process of producing paper-- forgot to add paste, so the paper was too oozing to be used and could only be scrapped according to the regulations, which brought irreparable losses to the company.
the factory director is very angry.
when everyone was expressing regret, an employee thought, "can we only watch these papers be scrapped like this?" Can you find a way to make use of this batch of waste products? "
the employee thought about it over and over again, and he came up with an idea: since this paper is easy to leak, it would be better to change it to absorbent paper.
as a result, the enterprise has produced a new product, and it has sold well.
other employees of the company only thought that it was a pity that the paper was scrapped and focused on the water seepage of the paper, but no one thought of changing the use of the paper.
this is to fall into a fixed mode of thinking, they can only see the failure, do not see the opportunity hidden in the failure.
I remember what Liu run said:
"mediocre people change results, good people change causes, and the most advanced people change their minds."
Don't say "impossible" first, try to think about "how to find a bright spot and make it possible".
the difference between a master and an ordinary person is not ability, but whether he has a bright spot of thinking.
people with bright thinking have no permanent dilemma.
they are good at jumping out of the current predicament and seeing the bright side of things.
Wang Wei, founder of Shunfeng, once said:
when you are in deep trouble, you might as well try to look at things in a "bright spot" way of thinking.
everything is good at finding advantages from disadvantages, but at the same time, it can turn disadvantages into advantages and disadvantages into advantages.
in the end, all problems will turn into opportunities.