You only have one chance to educate your children (read it no matter how busy you are)
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some time ago, I chatted with an old friend and talked about his child's education. He said that his eldest son was in his third year of high school, even if his grades were poor, and he was still very rebellious. Father and son were almost going to fight in less than two words.
an old friend said helplessly, "this main account is useless, and now I'm counting on the second account."
in fact, I very much disagree with this view.
educating children is never about practicing the game number. If the game number is abandoned, you can delete the number and start all over again, but the child's education is abandoned, but what is wasted is the child's life.
parents can have a second child, but can a child have a second life?
as parents, we should understand that in children's education, we only have one chance. We must assume the responsibility of parents and be responsible for their children's life!
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Children's life before the age of 18
some people think this sentence is too general, but the truth is that before the child is 18, the child's problem is the parents' problem.
indeed, children go to school, make friends, and are influenced by the social environment.
but in the final analysis, family education is the foundation of children's life, and all the problems encountered by children can be solved in family education.
to be a parent, it is never enough to give birth to a child, feed it, dress it, and send it to school.
even animals know how to train their cubs to survive and hunt, not to mention us humans.
the responsibility of our parents is to give their children the ability to live a happy life.
therefore, the child's making friends, the child's study, the child's temper, the child's character, the child's ability of life, and so on, are inseparable from the guidance of the parents.
when there is a deviation in the child's growth, not to mention that the child is spoiled by a bad friend, why don't you tell your child what kind of friend to associate with?
when there is something wrong with your child's grades, don't say that the school teacher is irresponsible, why don't you pay attention to your child's study?
when there is something wrong with the child's upbringing, don't say that the environment affects the child, why don't you tell the child what is right and what is wrong?
in the education of our children, it is very difficult for our parents to shirk their responsibilities. anyone can say: I'm sorry, there's nothing I can do about your child. Please hire someone else, but parents can't.
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the child's life after the age of 18
is determined by the life before the age of 18.
after the age of 18, the child officially reaches adulthood and gradually leaves the circle of parental influence and begins his own journey alone.
at this time, he will come out of his small family, see a bigger world, know more people, and children may spend more time with classmates, friends, colleagues and lovers than their parents.
naturally, it will also be influenced by the surrounding environment and have independent thinking about the world.
but what is more inevitable is that children at this time are full of traces left by their original families, perhaps traces of happiness, or deep and shallow wounds.
before the age of 18, the child gets enough love and respect, then after the age of 18, he can also give back to others and the world with love and respect;
before the age of 18, the child develops good study and living habits, then after the age of 18, these habits will always accompany him and become his bargaining chips for happiness and success.
before the age of 18, the child has acquired all kinds of abilities and skills, then after the age of 18, these abilities will become his weapon and armor against everything.
Happy people are cured by childhood all their lives, while unfortunate people are cured by childhood all their lives.
so, we who have become parents, although we may not be able to create a perfect growth environment for our children, at the very least, we should not allow ourselves to become a nightmare for our children.
03
Education cannot make mistakes
every immediate decision is enough to affect a child's life
Life is a relay race, and the native family is the first leg.
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if the child loses the whole game, the first leg is responsible, but it is unfair to attribute all the reasons to the first leg, and similarly, it is not appropriate to get rid of all the responsibility for the first leg.
maybe children outside the family will meet good teachers, good classmates, good partners, good partners, which become his second and third best, making him more hopeful to win the game.
but in any case, as parents, we don't want our first stick to be a drag on our children.
Education cannot be repeated, and some regrets can never be made up for.
Don't think about not spending time with your children now, but spending a lot of time with your children in the future. In fact, if you don't spend time with your children now, you won't be able to accompany them in the future.
Children have to go to school, work, and start a family. The growth of children is a process of separation from their parents, and the lack of companionship in childhood will only become a permanent gap.
Don't indulge your child blindly, the consequence of not being willing to educate your child is that your child will eventually be educated by others in a more cruel way.
what's more, don't be stingy in giving your child positive emotions and warm encouragement. Nothing makes your child happier than making him feel that he is loved.
the matter of educating children cannot be explained clearly in a few words, and many details need to be carried out in practice.
but there is only one thing that our parents must always keep in mind:
Education is a subject.Regrettable art, but education can not tolerate any mistakes, we always have to seriously treat every problem of our children, education, more need to learn and correct, in fact, it is our parents.