Children are addicted to "low happiness" and their brain is seriously damaged: please beware of children's addiction to "low happiness".
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short videos are everywhere nowadays, and people seem to be used to browsing short videos to pass the time. According to iiMedia Research, China's short video market has reached 140.83 billion yuan in 2020, and behind this huge data, a large number of users invest their time.
you must have experienced it-you've decided to go to bed early, but you can't stop when you turn on your phone in bed and swipe the screen.
Today, the major platforms. There are useless short videos everywhere, but your hands can't stop and brush for hours before you know it.
I always wait until I can't hold on any longer before I leave my phone and go to sleep.
Children usually go to school and have less chance to browse short videos, but now that it is summer vacation, children have a lot of time to browse short videos. Coupled with the habit of browsing short videos by parents or relatives and friends around, the child is likely to be immersed in short videos during the summer vacation.
although browsing short videos may allow children to stay quiet, it is not recommended to allow children to browse short videos.
short videos are not only a waste of time, but also have some imperceptible effects on children, and even affect their brain and learning.
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beware of children indulging in "low-level happiness"
not long ago # low-level happiness is dragging you down # on the hot search, causing a heated discussion for a while.
some netizens said:
there are also netizens who object:
Yes, there is indeed a difference between high and low levels of happiness.
low-level happiness can be obtained through indulgence;
high-level happiness can only be obtained through self-discipline; and
top happiness can only be obtained after suffering.
American diplomat Brzezinski proposed the word "Tittytainment" in 1995, which was later translated as "nipple music theory".
Brzezinski believes that social development, economic progress, and the gap between the rich and the poor will widen, and more and more 20% of the population will occupy 80% of the social resources.
20% of the capitalists, in order to appease the 80% of the population, stuffed them with "pacifiers", immersed them in "low-level happiness", lost their ability to think and judge independently, and lost their desire to fight.
how to implement this strategy? Is to create "low-level happiness" for 80% of people.
(1) develop satisfying entertainment: soap operas, idol dramas, celebrity gossip and other entertainment industries make people indulge in pleasure and comfort and lose their self-motivated and deep thinking ability.
(2) develop venting entertainment, such as exciting games, porn industry, hype online war of words, etc.
short videos are its main force.
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the content presented in the short video is mostly straightforward and funny, and it is straight to the topic to stimulate the audience quickly, without deep thinking, so that people can not stop.
the content presented in the short video has a dynamic "brainwashing song" blessing. These background music rhythm is dynamic, the melody is bright, brings the audience immersive experience, let people unconsciously brush one video after another.
the content presented in the short video is mostly grandiose and illusory, either playing rich and handsome, or pretending to be ugly but real, all performed by scripts, but the audience is deeply involved.
short videos do create a convenient and entertaining world for people, and they can also bring people relaxation. But after browsing these videos, what do we remember? apart from endless emptiness, I'm afraid it's just a waste of time.
even for adults, children are in the process of growth and development, and their self-control, self-discipline and judgment are immature, so they are more likely to indulge in them.
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what are the dangers of indulging in "low happiness"
being addicted to "low happiness" for a long time. And addiction can cause damage to the brain.
Addiction causes the brain to go through three stages-desensitization, sensitization and functional degradation of the prefrontal lobe.
desensitization: when we receive new stimuli, dopamine increases sharply, until dopamine decreases sharply through a certain behavior to satisfy this stimulus. At this time, we need more stimulation to satisfy this "hunger". This process is repeated over and over again, causing us to be numb to the whole process. For example, the brain becomes happy and excited when you swipe a short video for 2 minutes. But you may not feel excited even if you swipe for an hour now, but you crave it, so you can only spend more time browsing short videos.
sensitization: you will be more sensitive to addictive things, in other words, once you get used to browsing short videos, it may be difficult for you to be interested in other things in the world, such as reading, learning, and thinking.
in the process of constant stimulation, desensitization and sensitization, the function of the prefrontal lobe of our brain deteriorates (this is the part of human and animal evolution that is different), and eventually cannot control our behavior. Even due to a series of chain reactions, we will have mental disorders, tension, neurasthenia, depression, uncontrollable and other symptoms.
generally speaking, indulging in "low-level pleasures" such as short videos can do a lot of harm to a child's brain.
if children are in "low happiness" for a long time, it is difficult for them to be interested in boring learning and reading, they indulge in short-term happiness and lose the ability to think deeply;
and the child's brain is developing, it may also lead to stunting, emotional loss of control, irritability, etc.
in this short-term happiness obtained by indulgence for a long time, children will also lose interest in those behaviors in life that are less happy and require efforts to achieve happiness, such as reading, sports, study, and so on.
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resist "low happiness" and accompany children through meaningful summer vacation
in fact, many times, children indulge in "low happiness", rooted in the family, because in the parents.
if you want to keep your children away from garbage, parents must do these three things well:
(1) take their children to do delayed gratification
We indulge in "low-level pleasures" such as browsing short videos. Because it can bring you "instant gratification", the happiness it brings is timely and effortless, similar to eating melon seeds, playing games, singing and so on. As long as you do these things, you can feel happy at that time.
what our children need more is "delayed gratification", such as reading, learning, sports and so on, which can only be happy after spending a certain amount of time and energy to achieve certain results.
this is why children can easily eat melon seeds for a few hours and play games all afternoon, but it is difficult to read quietly for half an hour. Guazi feel sweet when it comes to the mouth, and feel exciting when you open the game, while reading to be happy takes time, needs to understand memory, and feedback is not timely.
once children are addicted to instant gratification such as short videos and playing games, it is very difficult for them to be interested in boring books and complex formulas, and it is very difficult to fall down to learn to improve themselves and lose their positive pursuit.
(2) set an example and stay away from "low happiness"
Children lack self-consciousness when they are young, and do not expect children to stay away from "low happiness".
parents need to push them at the right time.
it is necessary to formulate certain norms, especially during the summer vacation, and children should be strictly regulated.
"before the age of 6, parents try not to let their children come into contact with mobile phones and other electronic products, and even if they use them, they should delete games, short videos and other entertainment APP;
6-12 years old. They should not be overly suppressed. They can negotiate with their children about the length and frequency of playing mobile phones, and seriously lay down rules for using them. If there is any violation, they must be punished.
12-18 years old, adolescent children generally have strong self-awareness, parents should manage properly and guide them appropriately. "
parents are the best teachers and the first imitators of their children. Parents should lead by example, do not indulge in "low-level happiness" such as short videos and soap operas, and do not play short videos out loud around their children. Try to provide children with a comfortable and warm environment.
(3) enrich a child's extracurricular life
when a child is addicted to games or short videos, he has no other interesting things, parents should take their children to experience different lives.
Professor Li Meijin once shared a case: a father found that his son was obsessed with games in his second year of high school. Instead of blindly stopping him, he took his son to sign up for a table tennis class during the summer vacation.
every weekend, the father asks to compete with his son. As a result, in order to beat his father, the son had to redouble his efforts to practice and gradually got rid of online games.